This blog post is from an Instagram post I wrote on March 19, 2021
“However, I felt lost at times. Naturally. It was like… “I’m here on campus, but what am I doing? Where am I going? Who do I wanna be when I grow up?” In reality, I already knew… Who I Am; what I really was doing was trying to find a box to place myself in. ”
excerpt from the About page here on aleighanicole.com
A message to the 20-somethings and anyone else who needs the reminder…
A box mentality is rigid and keeps you trapped; exit stage left🚪⬅️ People in their 20s always talk about how confused they are in what they wanna do with their life… as if you supposed to have it all figured out (*whispers a secret: no one really does). Just live. Try things. Challenge yourself. Talk to people. Listen. Spend time alone. Live different places. Know your beliefs and Be faithful to them. Know why you do the things you do. Understand what it is you know, there’s a difference. Love who you are & accept yourself. Be honest when change is needed. You don’t have all the answers. Respect your elders & peers, even if you don’t agree with them. Separate yourself from what you don’t wanna be around. Don’t go where you’re not wanted. Surround yourself where Love is being given & received, this is peace. Admit you’re angry or sad, get to the root & don’t take it out on people who don’t deserve it. Admit to self when wrong. All actions have consequences. You will fail. You will get fooled. You will always bounce back stronger & more vigilant. Trust yourself. Accept support. Don’t do things to be accepted or seen in some way. People don’t really care about you, except for the people who really do—you better be able to tell the difference. Be a human with morals. Remember any feelings of envy is requiring you to look back at yourself, hater. You’re not depressed unless you’re actually depressed, shutup. Drink water. Eat to live. Get enough sleep. Indulge in whatever you choose to enjoy. Sex is a sacred energy exchange, hoe. Ice cream supposed to be soft, not your ego. Discipline yourself to remind yah mind who run this.
I’ll end this post with a song recommendation:
Lauryn Hill, Interlude 3
